tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post684048101652018840..comments2024-02-25T05:03:48.092-07:00Comments on Eudaemonia: The Lolita Effect at Random Acts of UnkindnessLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00665632105920753931noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-90824049980044159942008-05-30T09:41:00.000-06:002008-05-30T09:41:00.000-06:00Thanks for the link, Lisa. I am extremely proud of...Thanks for the link, Lisa. I am extremely proud of my daughter - sometimes to the point of awe - that she has such a strong belief in saving the animals and being her own person. She is my inspiration. :-)Melissa Amateishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16086267508858187716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-53588569336244636242008-05-30T05:31:00.000-06:002008-05-30T05:31:00.000-06:00I'm worried about these issues, Lisa. I have two d...I'm worried about these issues, Lisa. I have two daughters, 7 and 4 - I feel they are bombarded every day by wrong messages and the praise of false values.Vesperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12417602625059442986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-64102234952040983362008-05-29T23:25:00.000-06:002008-05-29T23:25:00.000-06:00THanks for stopping by my blog, and for the kind w...THanks for stopping by my blog, and for the kind words about my story piece!!<BR/><BR/>I linky-loved you back.<BR/>;-)Chris Eldinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11794946908789120139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-35790012645280222052008-05-29T11:30:00.000-06:002008-05-29T11:30:00.000-06:00When I was younger, there was a fasion to wear lay...When I was younger, there was a fasion to wear layered skirts, and my mum, being broke, was ging to make me one. Unitl she found out they wee called Rah-Rah skirts. She drew the line at that. This was the same year that kids in the UK were wearing 'Like A Virgin' t-shirts. If you go to mu local town centre on a Saurday you will see kids, and their mothers, wearing almost identical outfits. I'm all for women on a night out dressing in sexy St Trinian's garb, but I shudder when I pass girls heading to the senior school with skirts up their arses, walking in heels with sexy wifggles. They're 11 years old, and probably not even menstruating at that point. I hate Bratz, but Hermione in Harry Potter is cool. My 4 year old daughter loves Milly Molly Mandy and Pippi Longstocking. I'll never buy her a Bratz book, ever ever, I swear to you all.Yellowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05975849028363084985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-85631793264907429672008-05-29T09:16:00.000-06:002008-05-29T09:16:00.000-06:00Oh Lisa! You're too sweet! Thank you for the com...Oh Lisa! You're too sweet! Thank you for the compliment. But now I feel a misson coming on. I'll have to blog my ten favorite things about Las Vegas so you and your readers will know that there is, in fact, a whole city outside the strip where some of us even keep our *#*#*#*#'s covered up with more than just sparkles.;^DCindyLVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04123815678324617627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-45664996441140989812008-05-28T13:06:00.000-06:002008-05-28T13:06:00.000-06:00Rachel, I know what you mean. Unfortunately, I don...Rachel, I know what you mean. Unfortunately, I don't think the genie can be put back into the bottle.<BR/><BR/>Szelsofa, I think we do need to seek out and recognize good role models. We know the names of far too many people in our culture who don't represent anything meaningful and we know the names of far too few who do.<BR/><BR/>Debra, I was thinking of you when I wrote this last night because I know that this was probably something you never had to battle in your house. From everything I know of them, I'd love to meet your girls (well and you and your husband too, of course).<BR/><BR/>Cindy, I can't even imagine trying to contend with the exaggerated sexuality in Vegas with kids -- although I'm pretty sure that people who actually live there don't spend much time on the strip, right?<BR/><BR/>Jennifer, Ouch. I hate seeing those girls in clothes with slogans across them too. I watched the HBO documentary, "Living Dolls" (probably the one you saw too). I just kept shaking my head and asking, "why"? I don't think I've ever piled on as much makeup as they put on the two-year olds -- or worn a wig. Why would anyone do that to a child?<BR/><BR/>Electric Orchid Hunter, Kids don't even play anymore. It's an entirely different world from the one I grew up in. Kids can't go outside alone, all of their entertainment is electronic, appearance is everything, they are overloaded with school and extracurricular activities. I am sad for them. Cindy has to cover her ears (although I know you're not a native Cindy) -- When I think of Las Vegas, I think of what all of the fundamentalist Muslims must picture when they think of the west -- if they could even imagine it. I loathe Las Vegas and everything in it. It is everything in phoniness, consumerism and excess that I hate about American culture. Naturally, it is a cheap place to hold a conference or expo and I have two customers in Las Vegas, so even though it's the last place I want to go, I end up going about every other year.<BR/><BR/>The best thing in Las Vegas is Cindy :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00665632105920753931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-56505827368777130992008-05-28T12:36:00.000-06:002008-05-28T12:36:00.000-06:00My childhood was pretty innocent, and definitely l...My childhood was pretty innocent, and definitely less stressful. It seems that children are forced to look and act in certain ways from very early on, instead of being allowed to just be. Why is this happening? Is it all simple because of the new-found spending power of tweenies? Hey cindylv, the streets of Las Vegas are certainly not a place for children - it's littered with leaflets selling sex! Ew.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16532403180123519635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-63184340518157286512008-05-28T11:11:00.000-06:002008-05-28T11:11:00.000-06:00I'm not a mom (yet), but I often wonder how I'll d...I'm not a mom (yet), but I often wonder how I'll deal with this issue when and if we adopt. It makes me sad to see small children wearing "Porn Star" t-shirts, or jeans with writing across the back side. I made myself watch one of those documentaries on the child beauty pageant circuit, and felt so nauseated afterward. Children can hardly be children anymore.Jennifer Duncanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12628371104827804570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-43356536507676322112008-05-28T10:04:00.000-06:002008-05-28T10:04:00.000-06:00One young Grandma to another (I'm 46 also), thanks...One young Grandma to another (I'm 46 also), thanks for bringing this ugly phenomenon to light. I agree that we bring entirely too much sex to childhood, then watch in dismay when children are sexualized. My Mom wouldn't let me play with Barbies because they had boobs. I never saw the harm in a simple doll. Two years ago, while shopping for Christmas presents for my nieces, I was appalled at the Exhibitionist-Barbies on sale for $4.99. I asked the checkout clerk if that was the hourly rate. Living as I do in Sin-City (Vegas), kids here are exposed to smutty billboards and commercials depicting semi-nude contortionist women. I support the Moms who petition against such displays. Thanks again for spotlighting! I'll be checking out Ello's blog.CindyLVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04123815678324617627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-69239576270674095922008-05-28T08:42:00.000-06:002008-05-28T08:42:00.000-06:00Thanks for linking to Ello's site, Lisa, and for a...Thanks for linking to Ello's site, Lisa, and for addressing this issue. As the mother of 2 girls,almost 20 and 16, I am so aware of the over-sexualization of girls. My oldest is a college student in NYC whose major is Culture and Media.<BR/>My youngest frequently tells me that she does not want the media to control her of to define her sense of style.debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17676300309029588465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-8972953633304658742008-05-28T02:15:00.000-06:002008-05-28T02:15:00.000-06:00A great heads up for a very important issue, Lisa!...A great heads up for a very important issue, Lisa!<BR/>I happen to believe that there are those other role models you referred to, but we have to get active and look for them.<BR/>It's much easier to take what we get for granted (wait, that is not even true - people pay hard cash to get their kids spoiled.)SzélsőFahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11600289147447182465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-32783805522959829412008-05-28T01:47:00.000-06:002008-05-28T01:47:00.000-06:00I despair of it. My 10 year old girl wants to be 2...I despair of it. My 10 year old girl wants to be 21 NOW and my 9 year old step-step grandson is more mature than his mother.Rachel Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13048590167153841615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-46816123854248736242008-05-27T20:39:00.000-06:002008-05-27T20:39:00.000-06:00Carleen, I'll see you there.Ello, You are very wel...Carleen, I'll see you there.<BR/><BR/>Ello, You are very welcome! Technically, I am a step-grandmother. My stepson is 27 and I am 46, so although I could be a biological grandmother, I am not.<BR/><BR/>I'm really glad you're hosting this very important discussion. After I learned you were doing this, I made the mistake of looking into one subject that creeps me out more than almost any other -- child beauty pageants. This is an entirely different subject, but it all adds to my mystification over why parents would want to do this to their daughters. I am sure you will have plenty of lively discussion and you know I'll be there!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00665632105920753931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-41365829323964123852008-05-27T20:34:00.000-06:002008-05-27T20:34:00.000-06:00Thanks so much Lisa! But wait did you say you are ...Thanks so much Lisa! <BR/><BR/>But wait did you say you are a grandma? NO way! I saw your pictures! You are lying!! Ok youngest grandma in the entire world! <BR/><BR/>But you bring up the bigger issue that I definitely believe will be discussed tomorrow. And that is the whole issue of role models and our girls self esteem. the overemphasis on looks instead of other more important character traits. I am so passionate about this and am really looking forward to our live discussion. My blog goes live at 12:15 tonight (for the sake of my European readers!) and I hope we have a big turnout of questions and commenters from people so that a full and completely thorough discussion is had.Ello - Ellen Ohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18311917335471167591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-567668315717895367.post-76137689530700970982008-05-27T19:08:00.000-06:002008-05-27T19:08:00.000-06:00Thanks for the heads up!Thanks for the heads up!Carleen Bricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433203126527081458noreply@blogger.com